One of the biggest mistakes many women make with men is WAITING for him to make the first move or decide what he wants to do about being together. But while you’re waiting, he’s either gone or some other proactive woman has snatched him right under your guard. Worse yet, the men who “make the move” on you are the ones you wish didn’t, the ones who make you feel insulted and belittled just because they reached out to you, and the ones you truly love and pray for are out there. with a woman who made a move on them (you know the woman you call a whore because she got what you want).
I hear excuses like “I wasn’t raised that way” or “women in my culture don’t make the first move” or “men like women to be feminine” or “men don’t like a woman to get desperate.” or “I don’t want to be seen as ‘fast’ or ‘loose’ or ‘men are historically the hunters.'”
Hey! Wake. REAL feminine women have been making moves on men for thousands of centuries. And these are not just “desperate” women, but women who have made history and changed the world: from Cleopatra to Catherine the Great and Mae West. Many, if not most, of these women were not “classic” beauties. Far more important were his wits, brains, empathy, and self-sufficiency, the opposite of need and despair.
The real reason you don’t make the first move is because you don’t know how to do it, you’re afraid of rejection, and you have very little confidence in yourself and your ability to hook a guy on you like a drug. Then what do you do? You spend a fortune on the right clothes and the perfectly designed body, but Saturday night rolls around and you find yourself sitting in a bar being harassed by a characterless drunk trying to prove his worth as a player.
Or it could be that for years you’ve snuggled up to this guy hoping he’ll say “Baby, marry me,” but all you get is a routine when he’s not drinking with his friends. And before you know it, the guy has lost interest and you’re sitting there blaming him (but secretly kicking yourself).
If you are expecting men to always take the first step, I am telling you TODAY here, “you are doing everything wrong in this love thing”. Just like women, REAL men are flattered and delighted when a woman makes a sweet, spunky move, but they also want her to be a woman who exudes a magnetic field, a wonderful arrogance that comes with saying, “I LOVE THE PERSON.” THAT I AM ALREADY ME”. She knows YOU WILL TOO.” Women who exude this energy consider themselves to be truly emotionally and sexually liberated and are treasures to men who are also emotionally and sexually liberated.
When it comes to your love life (or any other area of your life) you need to be proactive. I’m not suggesting that you walk up to a man and pinch him on the butt or start grabbing him. There is a delicacy, an art to seduce him with dignity intact. You can set yourself apart and get ahead just by being that confident, sexy, seductive woman without making him feel like a coward for not taking the initiative.
I think you will be pleasantly surprised.