I was thinking the other day about how, over the years, I had heard various people say that certain women had “fathering issues.” This was something that was said if a woman blamed all men for everything and hated men, or even if she had a tendency to seek out older men.
However, while this is something that is often said, I don’t think it’s that common to hear someone say that a man has “mommy issues.” This is not to say that it is time for men to be criticized, as I believe that there are already enough attacks against men in the media.
Balance
The reason this stood out to me is because I think seeing one genre as having all the problems doesn’t solve anything. At the end of the day, both men and women have their own things to deal with.
Making believe that only one gender has problems and the other is practically perfect only creates more problems. All this does is divide men and women, and the only people who benefit from this are the people at the top.
a clear sign
With this in mind, if a man or woman believes that the opposite sex is the problem, it is likely to show that they have problems with mom or dad. The reason for this is that our mother and father are often the people who give us our first experiences as men and women.
How these two people treated us and behaved at the beginning of our lives is what shapes our view of men and women. However, because this happens so soon, it can be easy for us not to realize the effect these two people have on our lives.
Time goes by
So if someone did not have a good experience with their mother/father early in their life, then it may be normal for them to come into contact with men/women who will push their buttons, so to speak. But, due to the amount of time that has passed since this point in their life, they may not even realize what is happening.
As a result of this, they may end up blaming the men/women in their current life for what they are going through. So they can see themselves as victims and these people will be the perpetrators.
Two Experiences
Thanks to the fact that men are often demonized by the media and the educational system, it can be much more difficult for a woman to own her own problems. No matter what a woman goes through, there will be no reason for her to take responsibility for what happens; the bad behavior that she has experienced will only be a reflection of how men are
On the other hand, if a man has problems with a woman, it will be much more difficult for him to speak ill of her in public. Consequently, since it is more difficult for a man to get away with blaming a woman for her problems, it can cause him to look inward.
final thoughts
On the other hand, you could join a movement that is more underground; where other people will validate what you are doing. If someone really wants to make a difference in the world, it’s clear how important it is for them to own what happens to them.