When it comes to relationships, sometimes it’s a good idea to take a step back, so you can clearly see what you’re dealing with and what you need to do.
This is a particularly great idea, especially when the relationship is not going in the direction you want it to go or if you have decided to part ways with your loved one. After a break up, in most cases, it is not unusual for one partner to be harassing the other with calls or texts in an effort to win them back.
All the things they are doing are coming from a good place, however it may not necessarily bring them closer to their lover. The problem with this tactic is that it will do more harm than good because the other person may not be ready to deal with what is happening.
At the end of a breakup, it’s good for both of you to take some time to process everything that’s going on. Constant calls just make one seem needy and clingy, and it’s definitely driving your partner away.
Taking some time and dealing with where the relationship is at can be a great way to look at things in a neutral light, and this could give you an opportunity to see what may have contributed to the relationship not working out.
This will also give your ex a chance to miss you a bit, which is exactly what you want to happen. It’s someone who once cared about you, and probably still does, so when you suddenly stop calling, they’ll wonder if you’ve changed.
If done right, they will be the ones to call you back and try to get in touch with you.
It is very normal that it is difficult for you not to call because they are in your thoughts and you are used to them being in your life. Focus on other aspects of your life, especially aspects that you may have neglected since the relationship began. Reconnect with some old friends or do whatever else helps you feel happy again or regain your confidence.
Work on building your self-esteem, so that the next time they meet you they see the confident person they fell in love with in the beginning.