Most men don’t know what women want. Most women don’t know what women want. Sure, conscious choices are obvious. Things like “I want a man who is fun” and “I would like to date a man who is confident” are pretty standard. But let’s face it, if every woman’s criteria for choosing her partner were as simple as these examples, we guys really wouldn’t have such a hard time getting picked, right? But we do. We really, really do. Most men flounder in the process of attraction and, if they go far enough, seduce like blind men without canes or guide dogs. They are forced to feel their way through the entire process, trial and error style. So let’s cut to the chase: what are the actual rules? What do women really care about subconsciously? Here is the summary.
To really get to the heart of what happens between men and women when attraction (or repulsion) occurs, it is necessary to go back a few million years. I’m dead serious: the roots of attraction lie in the foundation laid by our ancestors, our great, great, great, great… well, you get the idea. First, you need to understand what the situation was (and still is). Women produce one egg per month. Men produce about 200 million sperm per day. Things are not even close to equal. Because women only produce one egg a month, they must be very careful about the men they allow near them and even more careful when deciding which boy (or boys) will be the chosen few: the men who can ‘inseminate’ . ‘ to them. All of this is unconscious behavior. This is not controlled by the conscious mind of the woman (or the man).
So, women are the ones who choose men. They review them, observe their behavior, assess their status and value, and then make their choice accordingly. But that doesn’t mean men are powerless in this game. far from there You see, in the days of mammoths and saber-toothed tigers (and millions of years before that, to be honest) there were two main types of men. The caveman and the knight. Let’s define both. A caveman is a tough and smart guy, playboy style. His goal is to inseminate many different women in a short space of time. He has the tools to do it: he is strong, motivated and a tribal leader. A gentleman is less animalistic. He is trustworthy, helpful and LOYAL. He is the guy you want around your kids, but not necessarily the guy you want as a FATHER to your kids. do you see the distinction? Women want a strong, high-status man to inseminate them (because of his tough, refined, and prolific genes). But they don’t want to be abandoned after getting pregnant by this guy, because he will inevitably go hit another caveman over the head, he will take her woman and get her pregnant too. So when they are pregnant, they want the caveman to “settle down,” relax, and become a loyal father. But leopards don’t change their spots. True tribal leaders can only be tied down for so long. But women don’t want a loyal man who’s there to help and stuff, but he’s also pretty meek and weak. So what do they want? They want a COMMITMENT. A perfect mix between a caveman and a knight. They want a tribal leader with a loyal and trustworthy personality. Fast forward to today, right now, right here. Do women really need a man to raise their children? No. Do they need a tribal leader to beat up their male rivals on their behalf? No. Do you still have the evolutionary programming that makes you want these two things and more? YES. Oh yeah.
So how do you adopt the attitude and aura of a tribal leader and a ‘gentleman’ in this modern age, a time of bars and clubs, parks and parties? A time of equal opportunities between the sexes. You follow a system. You use a formula. You become the man that women see, evaluate and realize that he is a man that all women see as attractive and that all men respect and admire.