In order to get your ex boyfriend back, you will first need to understand why he left and how you could have rejected him. Being too clingy or needy can push someone away just as much as not paying attention. Here I outline the top 10 ways to get your ex boyfriend back. Understand that there isn’t always one set thing that will work for everyone, but this guide will help you avoid common pitfalls and increase your chances substantially.
Tip #1 – Resist blaming your ex boyfriend.
Resist wanting to blame, argue, or make your ex boyfriend jealous in the hope that he will magically come back just so you can STOP bothering him. Do you see how illogical this is? You cannot attract love while throwing out negative energy. Even if you are upset with him right now, you should remain calm and act as mature as possible.
Tip #2 – Don’t shower him with love to get him back.
By paying too much attention to him, this will usually do no good because he knows you just want him back. Doing this to overcompensate for what you didn’t do before is not only a bit late, but it could even push him further away. If you want him back, you need to know why he left in the first place.
Tip #3 – Desperation kills attraction.
Feeling desperate means acting desperate. The best way to handle this is to resist talking to your ex for now. If you find yourself constantly calling him, texting, or begging and begging him to take you back, these are all signs of despair. He has the upper hand for now, but if you show him that you are still in control, your strength during this time will be very attractive to him.
Tip #4 – Don’t stalk or harass their friends and family.
You may be desperate enough to find yourself concocting accidental encounters and trying to get information out of your friends and family. You will not fool anyone and instead you will look like a fool. Stay out of his way and it’s even better to avoid going to places where you might run into him entirely.
Tip #5 – Analyze what went wrong in the relationship.
The fastest and best way to get your ex boyfriend back is to look at yourself. Sometimes we choose not to see something because it causes us pain. But how you feel about yourself is usually reflected in the relationship you have. Take a look at what you were doing or not doing that caused the relationship to fall apart.
Tip #6 – Bring back the best qualities of you.
Do you remember why your boyfriend fell for you in the first place? If he can’t answer this, he’ll have to do some soul-searching. You won’t be able to attract anyone if you don’t know what attracted you in the first place.
Tip #7 – Write down in a notepad all the pros and cons of your relationship.
No matter what you may think, your relationship ended for a reason. Now you need to figure out if it’s a good idea to get back together with your ex boyfriend. The best way to do this is to write everything down in a pros and cons list, so you can see everything at once.
Tip #8 – Understand that this will not be forever.
Your breakup pain will be hard to get over for now, but understand that this won’t be forever. Time heals all wounds, and you better have this mindset to begin with to speed up your recovery. People hang out all the time, and there’s no reason why you can’t get your ex boyfriend back in the future.
Tip #9 – Don’t put your life on hold for him.
If you want to get over the breakup quickly, not only will you have a better chance of getting your ex boyfriend back, but you’ll also be able to move on with your life faster. The best thing you can do is focus on other areas of your life. Dive into work, delve into your hobbies, hang out with your friends more. In essence, get on with your life. Even if you don’t feel like it.
Tip #10 – Step it up a notch.
Improving yourself will not only boost your self-esteem and confidence, but it will make you happy in the long run.