Actually, it is not at all.
But recently I met someone who said that he had taken the leap and that there were people he was leaving at work who thought it was ‘a stupid idea’.
“That!?” I said incredulous.
“Well,” he said, “there are a lot of people who have said they think it’s great, but I’m leaving this job to go to school, which means I won’t have a regular income.”
“Good, and you’ve obviously realized that you can make it work financially, and it’s the best thing for you right now, and you’re thinking about all the extra income you’ll get when you have that qualification and confidence to live your life.” dream life… so who ever came up to you and told you it’s a stupid idea? I said, still incredulous.
“Well… uh, no one has actually said it, but they haven’t congratulated me and I know they mean it.”
Oh.
First, when you think you know what someone else is thinking (I don’t care how well you know them.) – You do not know! That’s your thought that you have to think to imagine that someone else is thinking it, does it make sense?
Thinking that someone thinks that quitting your job is a stupid idea has arisen from your fears. Negative emotions, beliefs, or decisions made at a deeper level are there for good intentions, so don’t get mad at yourself for having them. In this case, the decision to quit the job had already been made, so the unconscious belief that presented itself as a thought in someone else’s head (much easier to digest if it’s that person and not you, right? ) is there to protect you, to remind you to make sure you have a plan in place. that she did,
BUT, if that thought keeps you where you are, in a job you don’t want to be in, dreaming of a life you do want, feeling stuck, frustrated, angry, or sad, as your confidence began to wane and your energy levels and the will to live goes down, then you are giving in to fear and accepting a limitation that is holding you back. By the way, if someone really tells you “that’s a stupid idea”, just thank them for their feedback.
The feedback is not always about you and certainly not as negative as you might at first believe… this could be your wish/fear, or it could be born out of love: they want to make sure you’ll be okay and you’ve thought it through. . It’s worth deciding what their feedback is about, don’t spend too much time on it, but once you’ve decided what works for you, move on. If you think he’s from a place of his fear and he’s taking advantage of yours, just say DELETE, DELETE, DELETE.
If you worry about what others think, you’re thinking about it… wouldn’t it be better when you focus on yourself, on what you really want, on the positive of your day, on every comment you can make? grateful for, and in all the resources you have to go for what you really want today.
And if someone expresses what you think they’re thinking, then you can deal with it and be in a much more positive and resourceful state.
Be brave, be beautiful.