I am currently caring for and caring for a 99 year old while protecting myself from this dreadful virus. I have to say that the combination makes it the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.
I have survived 3 marriages and their traumas. I have raised a family without help or maintenance. I survived injuries and fractures and the ups and downs of life, but this is something else.
Being locked in without mental space, support, or relief is endless and extremely difficult. Especially since we are now being told that it will continue for a longer time.
My partner is an energetic woman who believes that the world revolves around her, her wants and needs, especially to the exclusion of everything else. Her hair, which is usually kept beautiful with the help of her hairdresser, is her biggest problem – and mine, for that matter! The house is constantly filled with the fumes from her hairspray, which is not helpful for my lung condition.
Sadly, her feet hurt too chiropodist She is unable to visit him at this time, which is difficult for her along with poor eyesight, poor balance, and extreme deafness. She refuses to even consider a hearing aid, which leaves me hoarse at the end of the day trying to communicate, as mostly fouls what I have said.
While I want the best for her and give her the happiest ending of her life; since she was desperate not to go to a home like many old people. The commitment required is enormous; It is not as easy as you think. It has become much more difficult than it seemed a year ago when he was in his apartment, at the same time challenging and vulnerable, probably from feeling his lack of control within his life and situations.
I must say that for his age he is extremely healthy and has a good appetite, but of course he has his specific menus that he likes, definitely good simple food, and as far as I am concerned, I think I can buy locally, if the products have the incorrect manufacturer’s label. is a constant cause of distant!
So friends, whatever your good intentions, before you think that you will do the right thing for your older relative, something that you would love to do to help them and give them the love and support they need at the end of their lives, please consider if they have enough stamina. . Think carefully because it is much more difficult than you think. You are on call 24/7, even at night, and if they fall, you need physical strength, pick them up or keep an eye on them on the ground until help or an ambulance arrives.
So well done to all those caretakers out there, I’m thinking of you!