For him to “wake up” the incredible woman that you are and literally beg you to be his (and only his) you have to do 4 things …

You have to “knock down” or override the unconscious objections he has to seeing you as “girlfriend material.”

You have to make him chase you and win you. You have to “paint a picture” of what it will be like to be your boyfriend.

You have to make him feel like you don’t need him and that he will lose you if he doesn’t take action.

You have to make him feel like it is his idea that you become an official couple.

Did you notice what is not on this list?

Whine, beg, complain, or give an angry ultimatum that he has to commit to you or you’re going to walk out the door.

Step 1: Stop “needing” him to be your boyfriend

I know that the deepest fantasy of women is to find their soul mate who will love them forever and ever and will never think of another woman.

But “forever” doesn’t really exist. All relationships end (or break at some point or one of you dies).

In fact, there is only one person with whom you are guaranteed to have a “life-long” relationship until the day you die …

And that person is you.

Many men are used to women being insanely needy, and if you cut the cord of that need, he probably won’t know what’s going on, but I guarantee he’ll notice the “change” in your attitude and your increased confidence and get started. to attract it to you.

Step 2: Take control of the relationship

If you want him to commit to being your boyfriend, you must be in the driver’s seat and you must “inspire” him to work to have you.

That means …

Never let them “assume” that you are available. No more hanging out on your couch 3 nights a week eating Cheetos and watching you play Xbox. If she wants to hang out with you, have her schedule a real date that involves a real activity like dinner, a movie, paintball, or even a walk with the dogs in the park. It has to be a “thing”. You will have plenty of time for lazy Sundays once you are officially together. Also, never respond too quickly when he asks you out. Let it sit for a bit and at least one out of every three times say it is not available.

Step 3: make him compete for you (and refuse to compete for him)

Real men like to achieve things and they like to beat other guys for the prize. It’s really just human nature: if we feel like we’re going to lose something, we want it that much more.

That means if he hasn’t really gotten engaged to you and hasn’t officially made you his girlfriend, you should be dating other guys and exploring your options (even if you don’t want to).

Step 4: Confuse it by putting it in “The friend zone” … and then taking it out again

That means moving the ground under him and making him totally unsure of what your relationship is, how you feel about him, and even his attractiveness as a man.

I can say this over and over again, but a man will never commit to a woman unless he feels like he has to in order not to lose her.

How do you do this?

Send him a text message or email with somewhat confusing and emasculating statements like …

“Hey, I need some advice from a boy, can you help me?” (Then ask him about a situation with another boy. Yes, this is a bad thing).

“It’s so nice to have a guy like you as a friend that I can talk to.”

“Can you do me a favor? I need a big, strong man to help me move some furniture.”

Step 5 (nuclear): get rid of it

If everything we’ve talked about in this article doesn’t start a fire, it’s time to go nuclear. And that means you stand up for yourself and formally let it go.

And honestly, that’s not much of a tragedy because you will find that when you really understand how the male mind works and what men look for, it is much easier to find great men to date.

Confident and powerful women have far more options in the dating world than destitute and needy women.

Many women decide to “drift” here. They just stop calling a guy or answering his calls and then get upset when he doesn’t stand outside their window with a stereo overhead.

Don’t be that girl. It will drive you crazy when you “disappear” and he doesn’t come running or you’re going to create a ton of really negative energy by giving him the silent treatment.

Instead, just give him a call and in the least emotional and pleasant way you can say, “You’re very good, but I’m not getting what I want out of this.”

Do not cry. No screaming. There are no accusations about how “it’s driving you crazy”, not “I would like to have you in my life as a friend” or anything like that.

Just finish it clean. Reject him the way he’s been rejecting you (subtly) for who knows how long.

The final step: open the door for him to claim you as his prize …

If the guy legitimately likes you and is at least attracted to you, at some point in this process he will freak out a bit.

Or he’ll get mad (in a really adorable way) that you see other guys or “friend zoning him out.”

Or he will get depressed …

Or he will be jealous …

Or he will be sad like a child who has just had his favorite toy taken away.

This is good because it is the moment when you have the opportunity to get the real commitment that you want.

The key here is to be strong and not “jump the gun” to give him what he wants.

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