You love your boyfriend. Sometimes it feels like you are about to burst just from the depth of your adoration. You couldn’t love him more, but you’re not perfect. We’ve all done things we regret in our relationships, and luckily, in most cases we’re able to grope our way out and make things right. If you’ve done something now and it seems like your boyfriend can’t let it go and he won’t forgive you, that’s a problem you can’t ignore. If your relationship is teetering towards disaster, you need to learn how to win a guy back after he messed up. Unless you figure out exactly what to do and then do it, the man will regress so far that saving your relationship will no longer be an option.
Understanding how to win a guy back after you messed up is all about acknowledging and accepting that your behavior or actions were unacceptable to him. Regardless of whether you lied to him, insulted him, or cheated on him, at the end of the day you still broke his heart. If a man’s heart and pride are deeply hurt, he will have a lot of trouble letting it go. Men feel emotional pain just as deep as we do and if your guy feels that you deliberately hurt him, he will hold on to that pain and make very strong and destructive associations between you and the pain. That’s why you have to face what you did and accept that you really were wrong. If he tries to excuse his behavior, he will only make the healing process much more difficult.
An apology is obviously in order, but don’t try to present it until he has cooled down a bit. Trying to apologize to a man who is lost in his anger or sadness for what you have done will only be futile. Wait a day or two for things to calm down, then contact him. Make your apology as genuine as possible and acknowledge what you did. Apologize for making him feel what he feels, and promise him that you learned a great lesson and that you will never repeat the same behavior again. It may seem like they don’t agree with what you’re saying, but trying to make amends in this way is an important first step.
Also, to win a guy back after you messed up, you need to show him that you learned a valuable lesson from this experience. That means whatever you did to cause all of this can’t happen again. One of the steps to getting a man to love you again after he’s made a mistake is to show him that you can make a positive change for him. This may take some time, but if you work hard and are serious about not hurting him again, the relationship may end up being closer than ever.